If you have just discovered that an image or video of you has been shared without your consent, an initial course of action could be to ask the person who has shared this content to remove or delete it.
A template of the kind of message you can send, making it clear that you do not consent to sharing of this image or video, is provided below.
You can use this template to send an email or letter to someone.Template for confirming absence of consent
Your personal safety is our priority. If you fear for your safety, or are experiencing image-based abuse as part of an abusive relationship, it is best to not contact this person yourself and to try other options instead. This is particularly important when the person with your image is also abusive to you or others offline.
If you have tried contacting someone who has your image or video and they have refused to remove it, you can report the content to the site or service on which it is posted, or if you are not confident approaching the site yourself, you can make a report to the Office of the eSafety Commissioner and our team will work with you to find the best way to help.
Below is an example of an email or message you may wish to use if you want to ask someone who has an intimate image or video of you to destroy the image or video and refrain from sharing.
The template below tells the person with your image that they do not have consent to keep your image or share your image in any form. They may still keep or share your image, but the message will make it clear that you do not consent to them having your image or sharing it. This could be used as future evidence that you did not consent to share these images, if they disregard your written request.
Even if you agreed that this person could take or have your intimate image at one point in time, this does not mean that consent has also been granted for it to be shared with others or for other people to have or see this image.
Sending an email or message like this may help you if you feel that the person who has your intimate image/video might have misunderstood you, or might not share your image once they realise that this is not what you want.
Evidence that you have sent this letter may also be helpful if you, your lawyer or the police decide to take legal action. The court may see the fact that you have sent this letter as evidence that you did not consent to having your image kept or shared.
Make sure you keep a copy of any letters, emails or messages you send, and any proof that it was opened and read, such as a ‘read receipt’, for evidence.
Before you send this message, be aware that any message sent to the person sharing your image may be used in court and treated as evidence. This may help you if the person keeps sharing the image after you have asked them not to. However, be mindful that any other communication or contact you have with this person may also be used as evidence.
Please adapt the email or message as needed according to your circumstances.
I [name and relationship to the recipient, e.g. ‘Jane Smith your ex-wife’] advise that I do not/no longer consent to you having the image/video of me [add description, such as ‘that I sent you on (DATE)’].
More specifically, I do not consent to you sharing it with any other person or posting it in any online location.
I request that you delete the image/video, and all copies you may have of the image/video, immediately.
If you have posted the image/video in any online or other location, I request that you remove it immediately.
We know that many Australians who have experienced image-based abuse may be in need of support. It can be distressing to discover that an intimate image or video of you has been shared online. You will find more options for support and counselling services in the support section of this website.Take me to support