Deal with sextortion
Sextortion is a form of blackmail where someone threatens to share intimate images of you online unless you give in to their demands.
These demands are typically for money, more intimate images or sexual favours. Blackmailers often target people through dating apps, social media, webcams or adult pornography sites.
While sextortion can be used by individuals, organised crime is often behind it when the blackmailer demands money. Commonly the blackmailer is not based in Australia.
Remember, it is not your fault. Anyone can experience sextortion, you are not alone and you have not done anything wrong.
What are the warning signs?
Something does not add up — their online profile is not consistent with what you see and hear when you talk or chat with them.
It happens too fast — they express strong emotions for you almost straight away, and quickly tempt you across to a more private channel, suggesting you get nude or sexual in a video call.
They make excuses — they say their webcam is not working and instead send a nude photo which they claim is of them.
They say they need help — they say they need money for some sort of personal emergency like medical treatment or to cover the rent or even to travel to Australia.
What can I do?
Sextortion can be devastating, so it's important to get help.
If you are in Australia
- Make an image-based abuse report to eSafety — we will work with you to get the right outcomes.
- If you are concerned about your physical safety call Triple Zero (000) or contact local police.
If you are not in Australia
- Visit our International resources page to find out where you can get support, depending on where you live.
- You may also want to consider reporting to local police.
Do not pay
Do not give them any money or send any more pictures of yourself. Giving in to demands will actually make things worse — paying a blackmailer will only result in more demands for payment.
Keep a record of all contact from the blackmailer, particularly any demands or threats and make a note of everything you know about them. This could include their Skype name and ID, Facebook URL and Money Transfer Control Number (MTCN). Have a look at the helpful resources on our how to collect evidence page.
Notify the relevant social media platform
Notify Skype, YouTube, or whichever app or social media service was used. Read helpful tips about reporting image-based abuse to social media platforms on our website and find direct reporting links in the eSafety Guide.
Stop all contact with the blackmailer
Block them and ask your friends to do the same. Consider temporarily deactivating your social media accounts (but do not delete them as you may lose evidence that way).
Secure your accounts
Change the passwords for your social media and online accounts and review the privacy and security settings of your accounts. For more information see the eSafety Guide.
Do not panic
Reach out instead — get support from a trusted friend or family member, or from an expert counselling and support service if you are feeling anxious or stressed. If you are in Australia, there are many options.
What if I've already paid the blackmailer?
You may be able to cancel the money transfer if you act quickly. Blackmailers usually request the ‘cash pick up’ option and sometimes collect the money within minutes of the transaction, so you need to be quick.
The links below provide information on how to cancel money transfers for international money transfer sites commonly used by blackmailers. If you transferred money from your bank account, contact your bank to see if they can help.