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Dating and relationships

Find out how to manage your relationships and learn what to do if something goes wrong. 

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I've been an avid social media user since I was younger and I love sharing my life over social media.

But what comes with that is pressure to send my body, especially as a developed younger person.

I was pressured into sending nudes from the age of 12. 

Originally, getting requests, I'd kind of feel special because I'd be like, 'Oh my God, someone's giving me attention' and when they're trying to get something out of you they try to flatter you, make you feel special.

And when older, cooler guys would be like, 'Oh you're so hot', you'd kind of be like, 'Oh, he's popular, he's older' and you'd feel that pressure on you to send because this older popular guy is asking you.

Everyone's like, 'Oh, don't do this, don't send nudes', things like that. 

But when you're actually in the situation where you feel the pressure from this person and you feel like you're being flattered and you kind of feel like you owe something to them, it completely changes.

The stigmatisation around asking for help is very much surrounding the fact that you're doing something wrong, like, 'Oh, people are going to think that I'm bad' or 'People are going to think that I'm a snitch', when in reality asking for help is not only helping you but helping the situation.

What I would tell myself, my younger self, is to think about the 20-second rule. 

So I tell myself this all the time: if it's not gonna matter in 20 years, don't spend 20 seconds worrying about it.

You're not gonna remember that. You're not gonna remember who said that. You're not gonna remember that, 'Oh, you're a snitch'. 

You're gonna remember that somebody helped you from a really bad situation and you're going to use that information and use asking for help in other situations where you need it.

Adelaide: Seeking help when things go wrong online


Hi, my name is Chanel Contos and I'm the founder of the Teach Us Consent campaign.

This campaign asked for Australian school students to be taught consent education earlier, holistically and in every single school, and thanks to tens of thousands of Australians across the country who signed this petition that has now happened.

Ever gotten a DM from someone that's a little bit weird or felt that twinge in your gut, that's told you something's not quite right?

When you live part of your life on the internet, it's very probable that something like this has happened to you before. 

There are lots of strange people on the internet, but obviously not all of them are bad.

So the question is how do you know when someone means you harm?

Number one: If the person's stories aren't adding up. 

Let's be real: Everyone makes things up. But if someone you're speaking to has inconsistencies in basic details and personal interests, it could be that they're not being honest about who they really are and they may be making this information up to play a role in order to get closer to you.

Two: If the person's behaviour is becoming overly familiar.

Online conversations and friendships can develop fast, but they should have limits.

If a person starts asking for information you're not completely ready to share, like around where you live or your sexual experiences, it could be a sign that they have different expectations of the relationship. 

Some internet predators may try to isolate you from your friends. They may claim they're the only one who understands you or supports your dreams. 

While at first it sounds romantic and feels great to meet someone online who just gets you, just be careful. Sometimes this behaviour is intended to make you vulnerable or manipulate you for the benefit of them down the track. Trust your gut.

And finally, number three: They are not respecting your boundaries.

A no is a no, and if someone on the internet is pushing you to do something you don't want to do, like sending nudes, revealing information around yourself or cutting off friends, it is a sign they do not respect your boundaries.

The report and block function on online platforms can keep dodgy people like this out of your life.

The rule of thumb is if your gut feeling is telling you something is off, it's probably right.

Your online connections should bring you joy and help you grow, not leave you feeling uneasy.

If you do find yourself in a tricky situation, eSafety might be able to help. 

They can also help you get mental health support that you need to find your feet again. 

So reach out and know that you're never alone.

Chanel Contos: Consent and staying safe online

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Navigating difficult situations

Being online can come with a lot of benefits, but sometimes you could find yourself in a situation you're not comfortable with or not sure how to handle.

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I believe social media websites should have a duty of care to protect its users.

Especially when cyberbullying is so much easier to do behind the screen than face-to-face.

So, what's cyberbullying?

It can range from someone at school posting indirect but aggressive comments about you or someone setting up a fake or embarrassing account in your name.

It's behavior that's consistent, persistent and designed to humiliate you and anyone can cyberbully you – from a friend to a stranger. 

No matter the form it takes, cyberbullying is never okay.

If you feel comfortable enough, you can try asking the person to take their comments down. 

If the cyberbullying misrepresents you or your opinion, you can try saying, 'Hey, this is unfair' before explaining your reasons why.

If the bullying gets worse, this is usually a sign that things aren't going to get better without outside help.

Often cyberbullies like a fight, especially from behind the screen. If this happens, it's time to screenshot, report and block. 

The websites you're on are also responsible for your welfare, which means that any cyberbullying should be reported to them first to address. 

If nothing changes, eSafety can also step in.

Report it to eSafety and they'll do their best to help you out.

So my final word of advice is to stay positive, and the cyberbullying itself reflects the cyberbully not you and it's okay to seek help.

Lachlan: How to deal with cyberbullying


My favourite thing about the internet is the connection it brings.

I can talk to anyone from anywhere. I can share anything I want.

It can be hard to open up to the adults in your life when things go wrong online, especially if you think they're not going to understand or that they're gonna blame you. 

But the adults in your life can help with certain things like gathering evidence for an eSafety complaint or filing a police report. 

They can also act as your advocate so that when you're feeling unsure, you have somebody who'll speak up for you and remind you of the respect that you deserve.

If you don't know how to reach out that's understandable. 

It can be tough, even though staying silent can make your problem worse. 

It's important to figure out which adult you trust enough to talk to. 

Your trusted adult could be one of your parents, but it could also be an English teacher or one of the adults at your job.

Then you have to figure out what you want to ask them or tell them.

Writing down what you want to see can be super helpful. 

You might ask for help making a report, you might ask for advice for what to do or you might just need somebody to listen.

Last of all, you need to figure out where you want to hold this conversation. 

You might want to chat over the phone or via text, so it's not as overwhelming as in person. 

Or you could chat after school in a place that's going to be comfortable for you and there'll be no distractions.

Once you've figured out which adult you want to talk to and you're prepared for the conversation, try sending them a text to let them know you want to chat.

You could say something like, 'Hey, there's been a problem online and I need your help.' 

And remember, the adult in your life were once our age too. 

They may have been in similar situations and may have advice to share from what they've learned. 

They'll be able to help you carry the load. 

It shouldn't be up to you to do this alone.

Keep in mind that eSafety also has a pretty big directory of free and confidential support services you can access at any time.

Thalia: The hows and whys of opening up

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Protecting yourself online

The online world can feel endless, and you might end up some place where you didn't expect or where your identity is at risk.

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My favourite part about the internet is being able to stay connected to people who live far away – and seeing cute cats.

The internet should be a safe space for everyone and you should feel safe and respected there.

When something goes wrong online, it's important to speak up and get help, but it might not be obvious what you can report or how to get help. 

So let's take a look at what the reporting process at eSafety involves. 

First of all when something happens it's good to take screenshots.

If you don't feel comfortable gathering that evidence, you can ask someone you trust to gather it on your behalf.

Having this evidence can help you, especially if any links or information gets deleted in the future. 

If you can, you will also need to report the issue or problematic content to the app or site it is posted on. 

You can report a range of online harms to eSafety including the cyberbullying of minors under 18 to adult cyber abuse and image based abuse, which is sharing or threatening to share private and intimate images without consent. 

You can even report illegal and restricted content, the really disturbing stuff you might have stumbled across. 

When you click on the report abuse button on the eSafety website, you'll have all the info you need on what exactly you can report, how to collect evidence and all the key things you need to know before you can make a report. 

Once you start your report, depending on the form, it may ask you to write how you feeling so that eSafety can link you to the right support if you need it. 

Share what happened and where. Links and screenshots are handy to have and upload. 

And share who was involved. Can you identify the person who was targeting you or are they anonymous? 

It's also important to remember that eSafety will treat any report you make to them with respect and confidentiality. 

While sometimes they may have to talk to other people, the eSafety team will guard the information that you have provided and check in with you on what they can and can't share. 

Not all fields are mandatory. In some forms you can choose how much or how little you disclose, and you don't have to do it alone. 

You can ask someone to help you fill out the form or you can authorise someone else to do it for you.

eSafety can also make sure that you get priority access to the right support and counselling services. 

At the end of the day, eSafety's goal is simple: to make sure that you feel empowered, supported and safe online.

Ciri: How to report abuse online


Social media literacy is a really important topic for me because I have a younger sister who's currently dealing with these kind of issues in her social circles, where really young kids are being exposed to social media without necessarily the tools to properly navigate that.

Between fake news, filters and the speed with which the online world is changing, it's getting harder and harder to tell what's real, what's not real and what you can trust.

There's no one good answer, but there is advice that can help.

Here's three tips to help you navigate social media with less stress.

Number one: remember social media is powered by algorithms. 

Most social media platforms are powered by complex algorithms that show us profiles or posts they think we're likely to engage with, for better or for worse. 

That means that in addition to seeing posts that may bring you joy, you may also be exposed to content that is harmful and targets your community or your values. 

But remember that you don't need to engage with everything you see in your feed, especially if it upsets you or makes you feel uncomfortable.

Following or unfollowing certain profiles or tags can help the algorithm relearn what you're interested in.

Number two: remember that everyone has an agenda.

Everyone posts for a reason, whether they're a political figure and influencer or just a friend. 

An influencer may want to grow their following, which could mean they use filters to change their appearance, or a political figure might want to start an unfair debate, which could mean that they misrepresent some of the facts. 

Identifying a person's agenda and thinking critically about what they're posting can help you figure out how to engage with their content.

Number three: if in doubt, double check.
If you see information that you're unsure of, it's always good to check where it's coming from and how it's being used. 

Sometimes people or sites misrepresent information and statistics to support their opinions.

Double checking who's written a story and thinking critically about why they may have written it can help you figure out if you can trust it. 

It's everyone's responsibility to keep a critical eye on what they're engaging with. 

Double checking the facts and the content you're sharing can help you keep yourself and your community safe.

Zara: Tips for navigating social media

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Connect with Respect resources

Learn about the different ways you can be respectful in every relationship you have – whether it's with a romantic connection, a friend or your family.

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I predominantly think about safety, really.

You know, safety physically, emotionally, spiritually, culturally.

And having a relationship, that is really, at the heart, there for your best interests and for you to be the most authentic self, for you to grow and change, for you to set boundaries respectively, for you to learn about yourself in those kinda spaces.


I definitely agree with that.

For me, you said the word authenticity, and that's one of the first words I always think about, is being authentic with whoever it is, you know, whether it's a romantic relationship, your family, friends.

And when you're able to be yourself, when you're able to be who you are and navigate that, and people respect those boundaries, that's what makes a respectful relationship so dynamic and powerful.


One where you feel comfortable.

Definitely where you can be yourself.

You don't have to try to be someone else.

You don't have to try to fit in.

You just feel comfortable.

You feel like you've known the person for a long time.


Yeah, making each other better people almost, because you're trying to improve each other as you go along the way.

Understanding that disagreement doesn't mean the end of a relationship or doesn't mean we can no longer be friends, right?

Being able to have that disagreement means we're working together.

We're trying to understand each other better.


A relationship where there's mutual trust and mutual respect, no indifferences of power. 

Equality, really.


Somewhere that it feels safe, where it's not just a one-way street, where there's a listener.

Somebody that has an understanding or understands where you're coming from.


You listen. 

You listen to the other person.

You make sure that their voice feels heard, and not just feels heard but actually is heard.

So without that? Well, why are you even in a relationship?


So you have to communicate, and I would say communication is the key.

Because regardless of how much you love each other and how much you think you are compatible, there's gonna be differences and you might have disagreements.


A connection that is based on loyalty, honesty, and your values are being respected.

Your difference and your imperfections are being respected, and you're being accepted just the way you are.

It's connection that you feel comfortable being you.

You don't have to change.

The right person will not change you.

They will accept you for who you are.

We're all different and that's what makes us beautiful and unique.

What is a respectful relationship?

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It's like listening first and being a really active listener, gauging what they're saying and emotionally what they're feeling.

And then, you know, when they're comfortable.

Being like, 'OK, what can we do to help you out? What sort of actions should we do together to get you the best help that you need?'


And yeah, especially with friends, I think the best thing is, because not everyone's going to open up.


I think listen, like at the top.

Provide advice, but you've gotta be careful because you can't overstep your boundaries when it comes to relationships in giving advice. It's so easy to do that.


Definitely. I feel like you have to be OK with yourself first before you give that listening ear, because sometimes emotions and feelings from your side can come out and it can affect the advice that you give to somebody.


Make sure that rather than saying, 'Oh well, this is what you need', actually hearing them out, and listening.


You won't have all the solutions, and you don't have to have all the solutions.

There will be people out there who are willing to support you. 

And, you know, if there's a friend who came to you, and they need your support, let them lead what that looks like for them, and let them choose what that looks like for them and that agency and choice and consent.

Giving support in relationships

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I think the biggest problem that stops people from seeking help, the biggest barrier is probably the stigma, for one.

Like, people don't see relationships as a problem to maybe talk to the school counsellor about, but the truth is, if that is an issue, then, yeah, go and talk to the school counsellor about it.

The school counsellor is there to support you emotionally and your wellbeing, and your relationship is a huge part of that, right?


You know, that primary-high school environment, you often feel like you don't have as much agency to be able to actually speak up or be able to share what you want to.

And the power dynamics that I see is that there's an element of fear that's attached to it.

You know, when you're younger and, you know, whether it's to your teachers, your principal or just anyone who's older in your environments around you, there's a fear of being shut down, a fear of being ridiculed because of your age or what you have to say, or a fear that your experiences aren't as valid to others.

And then on top of that there's also so many other intersecting things that come into the way that power and dominance, you know, feeds into relationships.


I think stigma. Like, peer stigma.


Yeah, a lot of shame factor.


Yeah, a lot of shame, embarrassment.


Not being like the others, like conforming.

Like, if everyone else is normal, then what's wrong with you?

You don't wanna be that outcasted person.

I think most people are worrying about themselves.


There's a lot of stigma around mental health and like, having those sort of problems.

And I think, you know, you can become really embarrassed that like, 'Oh, you know, you're such a high achiever, how come you're dealing with this stuff? How come you can't cope with the stress?'

So I think being able to sort of beat that embarrassment and beat that stigma, I think is really important, especially if you're the person who's asking for help.

It's finding out where those resources are, and making sure those resources are accessible, they're affordable. They're something that I can reach to by, you know, public transport if I can't drive.

There's something that, you know, they're confidential.

Like, I don't want to maybe say get my parents involved in this issue.

So I think making sure that there's resources out there and those resources are accessible to young people.


Just having someone you know you can rely on or you're comfortable in talking to.

If you have that person you can go up to them and, you know, tell them how you're doing and ask for help.

Ask if they can accompany you to a place that you need to go.

Ask if they can help you with something.

And just having that person around or with you, it makes a big difference.


I know in some schools they will have cultural rooms and they'll have rooms available during lunch breaks and stuff like that where students can go in and have space to chill out, and usually there'll be a guidance counsellor in there.

They also offer support lines like Lifeline and the Kids Helpline as well.

And I think, because I used to be in those rooms a lot, and I found that even being in there, other children from the same kind of backgrounds would be in there and you would create your own little support group with them.

And I feel like those are the kind of places that need to be more available.


It's alright to ask questions. It's alright to reach out to someone who's older and get their advice because it's all new things that we go through and we learn from that experience.

And usually other people might have gone through that experience before.


I went to events and saw people speaking about their experiences, and how the more they shared, the more relief they feel, the more they get comfortable and more powerful, because your experiences are your power.

And I think the first thing that I did was just, you know, speak up, share it with my friend and see how she reacts.

Of course she's not gonna react in a negative way because I trust her.


Stand up for yourselves, even if you think it's really difficult, even if you think it's really hard, even if you think no one's gonna hear you,

Sometimes it's good enough that you made an effort.

It's good enough that you at least spoke it aloud.

And so, in that case, do that, even if it's a little thing.

If it does make you uncomfortable, you saying something would probably make a difference, even if it just makes yourself feel better.

So I think embracing that I think is really important.


You have to speak up.

There's a lot of services that are available.

Sometimes it doesn't have to be someone who's related to you.

Sometimes you want the information to remain confidential.

You don't wanna reach out to a friend or to a teacher.

So there's a lot of great services that are available where everything can remain confidential, so you can reach out to them, speak to them.

There's even, these days we can just text them online.

You don't even have to speak over the phone.

And I think from there you can get great advice on whom you can reach out to or what action you can take regarding the situation.

Seeking help and what can get in the way

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You just look in society.

Predominantly, CEOs are male.

Look at parliament, parliamentarians are male predominantly.


Having money gives you a status and only if you have money you can become part of that status.

Also, I think, education is another thing.

Being educated makes you higher than somebody else, I guess, which is 50 times, probably not the case (laughs), because you can have some people not go to school and still be more successful, yeah.


Finding a balance or finding ways to educate, especially the young kids or the young men, on what it means being masculine.

In today's society, what does that mean?

It doesn't mean be more feminine.

It doesn't mean don't be assertive.


I think you're right in that, there's some great masculine traits: being confident and that sort of thing, being strong, being a provider.

You know, those sort of things are fantastic, and things that we should support as a society, but you're right.

And when it gets to that sort of very extreme stage, when that confidence becomes arrogance, when that confidence becomes the belief that you are better, that's when it becomes toxic.

You know, it no longer becomes something that helps people, but instead harms the people around you because it creates a really odd power imbalance.


Who's more masculine?

That's when it gets to the dangerous levels, and we start to judge each other.

OK, well he's doing that, he's not a man.

And then, if you see that happen, what does that mean?

I have to not do that because I have to live up to that standard of being manly.


Being able to freely be able to say no, or say yes, or agree, or disagree to certain things is even more challenging as a young woman.

We must be able to support one another, because we can't go on like this any further.

We're seeing that the, you know, the different impacts that all these different events have happened on our world are disproportionately affecting girls and young women.

The way that we're able to engage with our education and our futures, our mental health challenges over our lifetime.

The way our outlook on the future, increased risk and proximity to potential domestic and sexual violence.

Power dynamics

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I'd say boys.


You think boys?


Well, from my experience at school, boys were always the ones that had the power and the dominance, really, in school.

My high school, for instance, that I went to when I was growing up, it was very sports dominant, mainly rugby league.

So it was kind of like, the boys played rugby league and they were the alphas, the jocks, and everyone kind of followed them.


Sometimes the physical power, where usually the bigger kids are the ones who would, as you said, rule the school, because they are physically stronger. 

They are bigger and, at the same time, people who socially have more power. 

The cool kids, or the people who have, who are richer than the other kids, have more money or they have a newer phone.

So I would say these are the things that kids would think, 'Ah, these people rule the school.'

I would say people shouldn't think of it that way, because everyone is equal.


How are we respecting people, you know, from ESL backgrounds or stuff like that?

And I think that is a power imbalance that we also need to look at.


Navigating life as a young African black woman is tough, because you are not only faced with a lot of different shapes and types of things that impact your gender, but also culturally too.

And then age, and then, you know, other experiences as well.

And, on all those different levels, and different lines of who you are and how you identify, systems and structures around you and environments seem less and less supportive sometimes.


Not seeing yourself there, and almost internalising that thinking, 'Maybe I won't get there, maybe I can't get there.'

We should be proud as young women to be like, 'You need to hear me. You need to value me.'

'Here is my voice, here is my feedback. I'm telling you these spaces aren't inclusive, or they're not safe, or this is what I need to do my work well.'

'This is what I need. This is what my support looks like.'


I think a really important one, or something that I've noticed a lot, was in the classroom, I would say something, and then a guy would say it louder and they would get credit, versus the fact that I just said it first.

Also happens with jokes all the time. I'd make a joke, nothing.

Some dude says it. Laughter. You know, they're the comedy king. Hate it.

And then the other thing was like, so that sort of thing that your voices are not getting heard necessarily, and that's a power imbalance.


So you would say the power imbalance would exist in terms of gender?


Sometimes. Yeah, and you know it's not something that you'd tend to notice, a lot, but if you keep noticing that, 'Hey, wait a second, I keep getting spoken over', you know, or 'I keep having to say my stuff two or three times before people start listening', then maybe there's something there.


I think growing up a lot in communities, and always moving around, I've always felt like girls have this underlying power where they have it, but they make out that the boys have it the most.

But really it's them behind the scenes playing.

But then again, it's just always depends on what environment it is as well, because there's some places where you don't see that difference, and it's more of a, I guess, equal kind of environment to be in.

But most city schools that I've had experiences in, yeah, for me, personally, it's the girls.

But I understand where you come from (laughs).

Who rules the school?

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Really trust your gut. 

If something doesn't feel right, if something doesn't look right, if even... like, I know, experiences culturally, everything, kind of, I can feel it in my gut, and I'm thinking, 'This doesn't feel right. Is this OK? Why is it normalised? Why is no one reacting the way that I think they should be reacting?'

To young people, trust that feeling, you know. 

Trust it and run with it.

And there are people out there who also feel the same way, and will want to make that kind of change.


I think we're starting to see a little bit of it, by flipping gender norms.

I think that's kind of one way.

You know, women can do whatever men can do, and men can do whatever women can do.

Yeah, I think we start thinking that way. Just be positive.


I think there's more safer spaces now for people of all different backgrounds. 

And I feel like even though we're just beginning, there needs to be more, especially now with all the movements that are happening around us, like Black Lives Matter and the LGBTQ+ community.


We collectively need to be able to support one another.

The mobilisation of youth is crazy.

Every time I'm a part of it, I get excited, because there's that genuine energy for we know that this is going to benefit our future and our ability to thrive in the different areas and pathways that we're going to go through in life.

And that's what we all want.


You're the future generation after all, you know.

Forty years from now, you guys will be setting the mean for what society looks like.

You guys will be setting the standard for how we treat other people.

And if you do want to live in a better, nicer world, well, it starts with you.

You've got to be a good role model.

Use your superpower.

Creating positive change

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Being a good ally, making sure that you are hearing about what's going on and making sure that you're actively doing your part, not only to change your behaviour, if your behaviour, you know, has been seen, or if your behaviour isn't something that's right, but also to call out wrong behaviour in others as well, and not to be afraid of doing that if it's your friends.


Because it starts from one person, two, three, and that's how it gets wider and more people hopefully can hear it. 

More people can understand, and more people get inspired and empowered to join that, I guess, chain of movement.


I think it's important to be aware of your own privilege.

You might not be part of the issue, but you should definitely be part of the solution.

You should utilise that privilege to find a suitable solution for whatever the issue is.

As Cosmin mentioned, you should speak up if you see something wrong and you can do something about it, you should speak up. 

You should try to change it. 

If it doesn't impact you, it doesn't mean that you shouldn't do anything about it.


I think educating the young people, educating them on how to stand up, that's really important.

How do you do that?

It's not just standing up and saying, 'No, stop this.'

There are ways to manage the situation.

And I think that's really important, teaching young people how to stand up for themselves.


Yeah, stand up for each other. Stand up for themselves. 

Being able to call out things if they see it, say online, for example. 

Or maybe if they see it happening in their workplace, being able to say, 'Look, this is something that really does have an effect.' 

'You're being racist', 'You're being sexist', 'You're being homophobic'. 

'You need to change your behaviour', 'Here's some resources to help you out', 'Here's how you can improve what you're doing right now'.

'We don't hate you. It's not that we're attacking you. It's that we just noticed something that you're doing that is hurtful to other people, so how can we combat that? How can we work together to make this safer for everyone?'


And standing up for each other doesn't necessarily mean going to the person who's committing the act.

It also means going to the person who is the victim of the act, and talking to them, trying to see if they're OK, because that's also standing up.

Being a positive role model

Last updated: 08/01/2024