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Someone is threatening to share my nudes

Is someone threatening to share a nude image or video of you, unless you give into their demands? This is known as sextortion and it is a form of blackmail.

Here are three possible scenarios:

  • You’re in a relationship with someone or the relationship has ended. They threaten to share your nude images with other people or post them online, unless you send them more images or stay in the relationship. 
  • You accept a friend request from someone and things get flirty. They threaten to share nudes that you’ve sent them unless you send them money or more nudes. 
  • You receive an email in which someone claims they have hacked into your accounts or devices and have nudes of you. The sender threatens to send the nudes to all your contacts unless you pay them money. 

What to do

Don’t give into their threats

Don’t send them any more nudes and don’t pay them any money. It is important you stop all contact with them right away. Giving into the demands is never a good idea as the demands will continue and escalate. 

Stay calm and report it

Try to stay calm and report it to eSafety using the image-based abuse report form. We’re here to help.

It’s important in this situation to talk to a parent or other trusted adult about what’s happening.

If you are concerned about your physical safety, contact your local police or call Triple Zero (000).

Collect evidence

Collect any evidence of the threats and accounts involved as this will help if you need to make a report to eSafety or the police. For more information read our advice on collecting evidence in cases of image-based abuse and sextortion.

Review your privacy settings

Review your privacy settings so you are in control of who can see your online information. 

Change the passwords for your social media accounts. For info on setting strong passwords, see protecting your personal information. For more info on how to protect your personal information in individual social media services, apps and games see the eSafety Guide.

Look out for scams

If you get an email from someone you don’t know claiming to have hacked your computer and threatening to release private images, be aware it may be a scam. The email might contain one of your current or former passwords to trick you into thinking it’s for real.

Don’t respond to these scams. You can check Scamwatch or Stay Smart Online to find out more about current scams. You can also read our blog on sextortion scams.

Need more help?

Get some support from a trusted family member or an expert counselling and support service.

How to avoid sextortion

Be wary

Be wary of people that you have only met online. Scammers can be very convincing and sometimes use advanced technology to try and trick people into believing that they are someone else. 

Change your passwords regularly to help protect your personal information and use 2-factor authentication wherever possible to secure your accounts.

Remember live streaming can be recorded 

Remember, live streaming can be recorded at the other end. Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that it is less risky than sending nudes.

If you’re being pressured to send nudes

If you’re being pressured to send nudes remember, you don’t have to do anything that makes you uncomfortable or that doesn’t feel right for you. If you don’t know the person, take screenshots of their requests, report them to the site or service and then block them. You can find links to report and info on how to block accounts in the eSafety Guide.